Autonomy

• We honor the career autonomy that high-achieving Adult Children of Narcissists (ACONs) possess due to outstanding problem-solving skills developed under extreme circumstances.
• We will never encourage an ACON to stay in an unhealthy situation due to fear, obligation, or guilt–the tools of narcissistic parenting and the source of our trauma.
• We remind high-achieving ACONs of the career options that come from their history of achievement and perseverance. We remind them that their narcissistic parent has lied to them about their skills, abilities, and earning potential, and that ACONs have more autonomy than they were raised to believe.

Health

• We support all health-seeking behavior, knowing that this behavior is/was actively sabotaged, undermined, mocked or dismissed by our narcissistic parent(s).
• Working towards health is an individualized process that includes factors both in and out of one’s control.
• We distance ourselves from all individuals and groups that discourage health-seeking behaviors for power, profit and ego.

Justice

• BIPOC, women, members of the LGBTQIA+ population, sex workers, disabled people, neurodivergent people and poor people encounter systemic barriers to accessing quality health care, education, and social services.
• These barriers include (but are not limited to) lack of access to resources, a shortage of culturally humble health care providers, and legislation aimed at controlling the bodies of women and queer people.
• ACONs navigate additional barriers due to the following:
  
  • The criminal justice’s system’s history of protecting perpetrators and blaming victims of narcissistic abuse.
  • The mental health care system’s lack of knowledge of the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and mislabeling parental narcissistic abuse survivors as having mood disorders or personality disorders instead of correctly identifying them as victims of long-term trauma.
• Our company is grounded in the value of intersectionality and understands that the act of going No Contact with a narcissistic parent is one available to the most privileged survivors.  We know that healing from the trauma of being raised by a narcissist is not one-size-fits all.
• We only work with experts and managers who share our value of justice and have a history of working with marginalized (and multiply marginalized) populations.

Lifelong Learning

• We commit to providing the highest standards of consulting through continuous learning centered upon advances in behavioral and social science.
• We keep up with developments in the fields of healthcare, education, and social services to identify systemic barriers and emerging traumas that keep ACONs–especially those of marginalized and multiply marginalized identities–from thriving.
• We find out what ACONs most need in order to prevent burnout and lead their teams effectively–and we provide the strategies they need to thrive.

Substance 

• We are not here to make people look good–we’re here to help them be more effective at work. 
• We value strategy over platitudes and effective action over apologies and good intentions.  
• We recognize that ACONs have been repeatedly traumatized by apologies without behavior change.  We know that the only true apologies are changed behavior or the efforts towards changed behavior. 
• We are here to bridge the gap between intention and action–which is often the trauma and overwhelm caused by being raised by a narcissist.

Play

• We recognize that play is a strength and a healthy coping mechanism that was punished, discouraged, or minimized by our narcissistic parents.
  • If you can find joy after your parents were your first bullies, you’ve already won.