Consulting or Therapy: Which One is For You?
When you’re dealing with difficult behavior, it can be hard to figure out where to start when looking for an expert who can help you. You’re already feeling confused and wondering if you’re overreacting to the situation.
If you’re reading this, you are not overreacting–you are being proactive. I’m here to help you make the right decision that supports your unique needs.
My work focuses upon empowering children of narcissists who are leaders in helping professions:
- Healthcare
- Education
- Social Services
- Industries adjacent to the above services (e.g. Educational Technology, Medical Devices)
Here is how to determine whether consulting or therapy is right for you.
(First of all, take a look at my values page. If you and I do not share the majority of our values, it is best that you and I do not work together.)
Consulting is right for you if:
- You have already worked with–or are in the process of working with–a therapist who is a Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC)
- You know how to handle your toxic family, but you feel overwhelmed at work.
- You are located outside of California.
- You are not looking for a therapist.
- You are looking for clear directions on what to do about a problem–not a deep-dive into your past.
- You want a quick assessment and/or actionable steps to resolve a workplace-related issue.
- You have been regularly working on one aspect of your self-care (link to “Self-Care”) for at least six months (physical, emotional or financial)
Some examples of quick assessments:
- Determining if a problem at work is due to a miscommunication due to personality styles, neurodivergence, or a clash of values–or reveals a hostile pattern consistent with narcissism.
- Determining if an employee does not have the right circumstances for their unique needs in order to succeed—or if they are actively undermining your authority by not following through on assigned tasks.
- Determining whether an issue with productivity is systemic due to lack of resources, a values mismatch with an employee, or hostile behavior.
Here are examples of actionable steps:
- Helping an employee with different sensory needs secure the right resources or working environment to increase productivity.
- Identifying activities that you can do to stay grounded before giving feedback to a hostile employee in order to communicate effectively.
- Identifying where and when it is best to give directions in order to reduce the likelihood that an antagonistic employee will claim, “They never said that!” and attempt to undermine your authority.
Looking for Consulting?
Here are some articles that can help you:
Signs You are Working With A Narcissist
The Controversial Move that Fights Care Manager Burnout
Why Being the Child of a Narcissist Increases Your Risk of Burnout
Therapy is right for you if:
- You have never worked with a therapist who is a Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC)
- You want to do a deep dive into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors as the child of a narcissist, and how they might be affecting your life beyond the workplace.
- You are experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression due to a difficult workplace situation.
- You live in California. (I am only licensed in the state of California.)
- You feel guilty about caring for yourself and think that self-care makes you selfish.
Looking for Therapy?
Here are some articles that can help you:
When Narcissistic Parents Die: What To Expect (And Not To Expect) and How to Care for Yourself