I’m Here to Help You, But I’m Not Your Mama.
If you’re ready to uncover your superpowers and stop feeling like a failure:
Mission Statement
My mission is to help managers in helping professions–especially adult children of narcissists (ACONs)–prevent burnout and protect their careers by empowering them with strategies to identify, cope with, and eliminate unhealthy workplace behavior and be as happy and productive as possible.
My promise is to help you uncover your superpowers and equip you with practical, actionable tools that you can use to navigate difficult situations.
I do this work because typical leadership and productivity advice does not work for ACONs, making us feel helpless, incompetent, and even more burned out.
Typical Leadership Advice:
“Just speak up and be assertive.”
Why This Doesn’t Work: The only rule of narcissistic parenting is “please my ego or be punished.” ACONs have been punished, ignored or dismissed by their parents when stating their needs. This is why it’s hard to do at work.
The typical advice leads ACONs to feel helpless and incompetent when they are unable to speak up or be assertive–not knowing that this is a trauma response that comes from being told our voices don’t matter.
What Works: Identifying the resources that you need to support you before you speak up and assert your needs.
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Typical Productivity Advice:
“Keep working hard and you’ll get there.”
Why This Doesn’t Work: ACONs burn out at work because we’ve been working hard to meet everyone else’s needs but their own. We do this because we learned that expressing our needs meant shaming, punishment, or dismissal by our narcissistic parent(s). We learn to deny our needs to stay safe. The typical advice leads to severe burnout because we fail to identify what will truly lead us to be happy and productive.
What Works: Identifying our unique needs and values, learning that they don’t make us selfish, and building productivity systems that work for us, not against us.
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Typical Leadership Advice:
“Own your authority and expertise.”
Why This Doesn’t Work: We’ve been told repeatedly that we were not good enough in spite of our accomplishments and education, simply because we didn’t do what our narcissistic parents wanted.
We were celebrated in public and berated behind closed doors for “failing.”
We have trouble owning our authority because our authority and accomplishments come with a side of trauma. We judge ourselves as “weak” for not using our strengths.
What Works: Finding the reliable voices who affirm our authority and expertise and learning to define success on our own terms.