Why Do I Do This? 

For decades, I felt like a failure–although my accomplishments said otherwise.  

I tested gifted as a child and was celebrated in public for my accomplishments while being screamed at behind closed doors.  

I won multiple awards in writing and music and had worked with three famous composers before my eighteenth birthday–yet I was called “lazy.” 

By 21, I had a degree from UC Berkeley after taking multiple classes with famous poets–and was yelled at by my mother days before graduation for things I didn’t know I had to do. 

This led to years of anxiety, depression, and abusive relationships that I thought I had to make work. 

I didn’t learn until my thirties that I was the child of narcissistic parents, who kept moving the standards of “good enough” based upon their own egos–not the facts. 

You can learn to feel “good enough.” 

You can embrace your accomplishments and keep growing. 

You can stop giving excessive time and energy to people who mistreat you. 

(And no, this does NOT make you selfish.)